‘The Calm in the Midst of a Storm’ – Jacqueline. A. Hinds
- 26th April 2018
- Posted by: Moira frost
- Category: Personal development
Even in the midst of life’s many storms,
we have the capacity
To Stand in the Centre
of Our Own Peace
~ Anon ~
Have you had days, weeks or months where things seem to be happening one after the other? As soon as you’ve sorted one issue out, another one comes along like the famous London buses… you wait for one, and then three come along at the same time!
Well, I have! For the past three months, there seemed to be ‘things’ popping up out of the blue, catching me off guard and, to a certain extent, needing my immediate attention. At one point, I felt I was being tested from every angle for a role I had no idea I was being interviewed for!
I felt, I had no alternative but to deal with things as they came up and, by the looks of it, these issues were waiting their turn patiently and moving up as soon as I’d finishing dealing with the present issue at hand. I had no alternative but to keep going and deal with them as they came up. It got to the point, where I would wake up in the morning thinking, what was going to crop up today, because I just knew something was waiting to make its presence known, insisting that I dealt with it there and then. To say I felt stress was an understatement, and I found myself reaching for headache tablets because I wasn’t able to shake the one’s I was getting off. Normally, I could go to bed early and sleep it off and I would be fine in the morning but, these headaches were quite resilient and hung around until I took some stronger headache tablets, which did the trick. As a rule, I don’t like taking tablets and only took them when I really felt that I needed to. It got to the point where I thought… ‘Jacqueline you need to address this… now’!
With everything that is going on in the world, we seem to be a nation of worriers. Not everyone is a worrier, but with so many changes, challenges and disasters that seem to happen in the world on a daily basis, why wouldn’t we worry? Well, my situation got me wondering about all the things that seemed to be cropping up and challenging me of late. I started to look at each situation that I had dealt with objectively, going over the solutions sought and, looking at whether there was a better solution in dealing with it at the time. Whilst doing this, I realised that I was worrying about some things that were outside of my control, as well as the ones that were within my control; what I had effectively done was just lump all the issues or challenges I had faced all together.
Then it occurred to me that I didn’t need to deal with all the issues in the same way. What I really yearned for at that point was some respite, peace or even a day where I could effectively wake up and find there was nothing urgent seeking my attention or, waiting for me outside my bathroom door, ready to pounce on me demanding immediate attention.
I started to look at the issues that arose differently and, the ones that were in my control, I dealt with them swiftly and effectively but, the ones that were outside of my control, I left them to the ‘powers that be’. I didn’t feel like everything was out of my control, in fact, I felt really peaceful at that point because I was actually dealing with things with a different and clearer mindset.
Did you know that in the eye of a storm it is peaceful? It’s true!
I found myself sitting calmly in the midst of my storms and, felt peace for the first time in a long time. You see, once I acknowledged the challenges that were swirling around me and, more to the point dealt with them in a compartmentalised way… ‘in my control’ and those ‘out of my control’, I was able to breathe a lot easier because I was actually looking at each issue separately and not lumped together. It felt good to breathe a bit easier after such a bumpy couple of months.
Life is too short to be worrying consistently! Take time out for yourself, find your peace, find that calm in the midst of your daily storms of life.
Jacqueline. A. Hinds
Emotional Intelligence Coach
Wilson Hinds Consulting Ltd
The views expressed by the writer are not necessarily the views of the Springboard Consultancy Ltd.